We need to tell little girls this ALL the time..and women need to remind it to each other when we DO go through difficult times and our candle is flickering. And it's always women who have children who need to hear this the most..or else they pass their 'forgetfulness' on to their children, while they are so intensely loving them.
My mother, a devoted mom, got so frustrated with me one day that she said "Your kids are just gonna grow up and break your heart. They won't even remember what you did so much for them. You need to take care of yourself!" I was shocked and offended..this coming from my mom whom i had always shown care to and who had always cared so well for us. I thought she didn't understand me..then. I thought maybe she hadn't seen how much i loved her..was she implying i had broken her heart?
But i realised one day, thankfully before she crossed over, that she was actually telling me to LIVE MY LIFE. Not just care for my parents, not just live my children's lives and not just support my husband's dream.. just because I had a big giving heart. She was reminding me of my one major flaw ..that i tend to forget how amazing I am. She just wasn't always good at finding the right words although her heart was always with the right thoughts. And it was when she saw me finally get it, when i finally remembered and started living my own dream..that she left.
I look around and see that now more than ever in my life, I have amazing women who do have the right words to keep reminding me and loving me..and sometimes my mom reminds me..in the gentle passing of a breeze. I am grateful each day for it. It makes me really powerful and beautiful.
And i tell it to my little girls everyday..i remind them that they are amazing and need to care for themselves well to keep being able to give their best to the world around them. And i do that best, by doing it for myself first of all ~
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