Love isn't there to make us happy

"Love isn't there to make us happy. I believe it exists to show us how much we can endure - Hermann Hesse"


I agree with Herman Hesse...for i can see the angle he is coming from.

Love doesn't exist for our comfort. Love exists to help us grow and evolve and become our best. And that isn't always comfortable, nor does it always make us happy. Initially anyway. When we finally align with Love's true purpose, then our joy comes. Our sense of happiness blooms to know we are in the caring arms of Love within and without.

We can then see that there is no good OR bad. For seeing things in 'this or that' mode as if we have only one choice or another, is dual-ity thinking. Instead, when we begin to think in uni-ty we can see that both are sides of the same coin..like night and day exist side by side. We can then see that Love knew all along that it was neither good nor bad, but simply what was NEEDED for us to grow to our better self.

Perhaps this is what Hesse means when he says that love exists "to show us how much we can endure". In that when we are finally stretched beyond measure and suddenly..snap free..we become aware of our own great power.

Love isn't there to make us happy.
Love is there to AWAKEN us to the true meaning of happiness...

Accept...then Act

Accept - then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if YOU HAD CHOSEN IT. Always WORK WITH IT, NOT against it. Make it your friend and ALLY, NOT your enemy. This will miraculously transform your whole life ~ E.Tolle

Anger is my Friend..

"We think that if we frighten people away, we can avoid being hurt even more. In fact, just the opposite is the case. By covering our wounds with armor we are preventing them from being healed. By lashing out at others we keep ourselves from getting the love and nourishment we need." ~ Osho


Anger is just a response to pain. When i'm angry..i realise one of two things. I'm either feeling extremely helpless. Or i am being ignored, and feeling extremely invalidated. Making friends with these two feelings, i come to recognise them as fears and experiences carried forward from my childhood. While they were my enemies, they had become automatic triggers for anger in my adult life. But now that they are friends - i can recognise them better for who they truly are, and deal with the pain better. At that instant when i realise i am actually feeling helpless or invisible..the anger dissipates. Because at that very moment when i recognise the cause of my pain..I am then ENABLED to find a way to stop being helpless or make myself visible again.


Anger does make me lash out. But stopping to recognise my pain-triggers helps me reach out instead..for the love and nourishment i need to ease that pain. And suddenly..those 'nasty' triggers have become my friends. Allies. Suddenly the pain ...has led me to have MORE not less LOVE in my life

Bloom

Want, and Let Go

After a lifetime of longing, i no longer NEED. And it seems THIS is the key to finally HAVING.


What do i feel right now? I feel ALL that i WANT to CREATE.


That ALL possibilities lie ahead of me. That i can choose to go anywhere from here. Like a blank canvass ready for any masterpiece. Empty of all that i have been made to believe i am, i am OPEN. I allow all that is good to flow to me, expecting only what is best..because i will not settle for less. I believe in love and love will always find a way.


Love will ALWAYS find a way ~